Posted on June 9, 2014

Choose Your Words Carefully

“Words are the most overlooked form of magic. They have the power to inflict injury or to relieve it.”


This past Sunday, I had the opportunity to teach Relief Society in the Singles Ward I’m attending. My friend, Liliana, called me at about 7:30 in the morning asking if I could teach for her because she had something come up and wouldn’t be able to. She told me I could choose my topic. I decided to talk about Individual Worth, and more specifically how we view ourselves and being more loving to our own selves. I found out a couple days after I taught that she was going to talk on the same exact thing!

Heavenly Father knew it was what we all needed to talk about.

It’s so easy to point out all the great qualities and physical attributes other people have, but, it’s not as easy to do so for our selves.

For this post, I want to focus on how the words that are said and used can impact us.

How they can hurt us.

How they can bruise and scar us.

I came across this article not too long ago. Richard Johnson, created a photo project called “Weapon of Choice.” He created images that depict the physical damage that verbal abuse could have on our bodies, if it took the same physical toll on the body as physical abuse does. He had makeup artists airbrush injuries onto the models with the hurtful word embedded in the injury it caused.

Below are a few of the results:

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The photos are powerful.

Whoever came up with the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is very wrong.
Hurtful words can leave wounds on the heart that may never heal.

Scars that will always remain.

A couple of years ago I was in a very bad marriage.
I endured horrible verbal abuse and at the very end, physical.
It wasn’t like that when we were dating but he quickly changed into a completely different person after we were married.
If you know me, you know that I am a positive, happy, confident person who is always, always smiling.
But, I was dwindled down to almost nothing.
I had no self esteem.
No self confidence.
The ONLY thing that kept me alive on this earth was my Savior.
My testimony.
My faith.

He kept me going when I no longer could.

 And it is those words, those phrases, those manipulations, those comparisons to past girlfriends, and the list could go on, that hurt the most.
That do the most damage.
That left wounds that are still healing.

That leave scars.

But, my message to you is this:

You are enough.

“So God created man in his own image.”


–Genesis 1:27

God created you. He makes no mistakes. Every feature on your body was planned. It makes you who you are. And you are His

Isn’t it beautiful to know that Someone who is so perfect and pure and good, loves everything about you?

Our Savior loves us so much.
Our worth is so great to Him, so important to Him.

And He showed just how much we are worth it, by dying for us.

Your words have the power to inflict injury or to relieve it.

I had the wonderful opportunity to have lunch and visit with my Mission President and his wife (The Miller’s) this past week. I shared with Sister Miller that something she shared a few years ago at one of the Zone Conferences I attended when I was a missionary have helped me tremendously to heal to the abuse I endured.

We cried and hugged when I recounted the story to her:
She held up a $20 dollar bill and asked us missionaries to raise our hands if we wanted it.

Of course,  we all raised our hands.

Then she wadded the dollar bill up and threw it on the ground. She then jumped up and down on it and kicked it around with her foot. She told us to imagine that the floor was a dirt floor too. 
Then she picked it back up and asked us to raise our hands if we still wanted it.

And we all raised our hands.

She told us that dollar bill can be smoothed back out and the dirt can be brushed off.


It is still worth the full $20 dollars.

I told Sister Miller that story helped me tremendously with my self worth.


Those words that she said a few years ago, have helped to heal my soul and have stayed with me.

Your words have the power to inflict injury or to relieve it; Choose them wisely.

And always,

you are enough.

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1 Comment

  • Reply Loralee Miller, New Mexico Albuquerque June 9, 2014 at 8:52 pm

    Love you so much. Thanks for sharing. I know you are helping other people, too. You are amazing. Keep it up!

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